I’m a month and a half out from my wedding day! It’s crazy to think that we’ve been planning this day for 14 months, especially because I can vividly remember every moment of the day we got engaged and time has flown by so quickly since then. It’s been an amazing year of celebrating and being fiancés, but we are both so excited to finally be getting married.
I would love to tell you that throughout this entire process I have been an easy breezy bride-to-be, but I would be painting an unrealistic picture of what it means to plan a wedding. However, what I can tell you is that if you’re feeling stressed from wedding planning, that stress can be short-lived (i.e. more time to celebrate with champagne!) For me, the beginning was the most overwhelming part, but for most of our engagement, I’ve indeed been easy breezy.
If you’re currently in the throes of wedding planning and are looking for some tips to ensure you fully enjoy the planning process, here are my five stress-reducing wedding planning tips.
You don’t need to follow the norm
If there are parts of “traditional” weddings that you don’t want to participate in, it’s okay to opt out. There’s no one perfect wedding type for everyone, and the best thing about your wedding day is that it’s a reflection of you and your partner.
For our wedding, we chose to honour our families in a couple ways that we know are important to them, because that’s important to us. But we made sure we were okay with those things first and foremost. As for opting out of tradition – we’re not doing a bouquet or garter toss. May seem like something small but you’d be surprised how many people ask about this!
Limit yourself to a few choices when planning
When you’re newly engaged, it’s fun to get swept up in all the beautiful possibilities of your day (and it will absolutely be beautiful). But when it comes down to picking something like your venue, limiting yourself to a few options will help you narrow down the right place for you. I think around three is a great number – much more than that starts to get overwhelming.
We called around to determine prices, and then picked a couple to visit. We knew immediately when we walked into our venue that it was the one. It just felt warm and cozy, and that’s what we were looking for. Your gut and budget are your best decision-making tools when it comes to wedding planning!
You don’t need a “Pinterest wedding”
The first thing that stressed me out about planning our wedding was if our guests would like it. Pinterest and Instagram are great platforms for finding ideas and getting recommendations, but they also make us feel like we need to go above and beyond on everything.
Here is all you need to know: your wedding will be beautiful because you and your partner will be so happy; your guests care more about you (and the food) than they do about out-of-budget floral arrangements, and; a fun atmosphere is the best accessory to your big day.
Stick to the vision (and budget) you have and don’t feel pressured to break it based on what you think someone else might like better.
Consider a day-of coordinator
If you’re worried about rushing around the night before or day of your wedding to set things up, consider a day-of coordinator. I think most people assume they’re are expensive to hire, but there are so many reasonably priced coordinators out there, and their service is invaluable.
Our coordinator is also our florist, and she will be setting up both our ceremony and venue on the day of our wedding. She’s someone I trust, and it has eased my mind so much knowing she understands our vision and will carry it out.
Remember what it’s all about
Everyone deserves the best wedding day ever. It is such a huge moment in your life, welcoming you and your partner into a beautiful, full, loving marriage. And that’s the best thing to remember throughout your wedding planning process:
You’re marrying your best friend!
Of course there will be some level of stress, and it will vary for everyone. But the most important thing is that, on top of an amazing day, you’re getting a spouse, you’re gaining a family, and you’re starting a new and exciting phase of life with your partner. How beautiful is that?
What are some things you’re doing or did to make your wedding planning process as stress-free as possible?